Neck pain, Overwhelming feeling doom, I panic jump in my car drove near the hospital which is 10minutrs drive from my house. A 2018 study found that the use of "I" language was the most effective strategy to use during conflict. Ive been told by my male gynecologist that i dont have vaginal atrophy. I feel sick all the time. These I-statements should state how the speaker is feeling, connect it to an issue, and offer a possible solution. It allows the speaker to express control and ownership of their emotions without directly accusing the other person of being at fault. Instead of focusing on the actions or behaviors of the listener, feelings statements focus on how those actions make the speaker feel. Also having anxiety attacks joint pain and stomach issues and ear pain that not caused from infection. Very scared. It's strange, I got thru peri and meno without too much trouble except for maybe some sudden outbursts of anger (and I'm not an angry gal!) Youre right: googling is dangerous! Not sure if i mentioned it earlier but one of my worse symptoms is the bladder pressure. Because of terrible hot flashes I went on HRT about six years after menopause and after a bit the urinary problems returned. If you ever need to talk, I am here. By Erin Johnston, LCSW All the best x. Glad to hear back from you. I apologize for the TMI. and one day was gone..For me the anxiety is the worst! And it does make you feel nausea. Instead, speakers should keep the focus on their own emotions, how the issue is affecting them, and what solutions might help. My main concern right now is this bladder pressure. I saw your post about rib and left side pain. You can almost compare it to mindful . i did speak to a therapist about it which really helped and i told my parents. Many articles say to get checked out for serious causes from this, but I've had 2 CT scans for it over the years an I'm sure something would have been found. It does not burn when I pee and this too comes and goes. this sounds just like me. My head hurts all the way down through my neck! Came upon this thread while googling my symptoms. I'm here for you if you need to talk, Hi Viola, I was afraid this thread was dead since the last entry was 6 weeks ago but still wanted to give it a shot. The nauseau and anxiety are just awful. How Much Relationship Privacy Do You Need? I am 53, 3 years no period and at first I was like "this is a piece of cake". I am 49 and I swear this hit me overnight. I had to cancel and I now realize it has nothing to do with my sinuses! Im not happy for anyones suffering but happy to have met you awesome ladies who have validated exactly what I experience. It will be 3 years in December since my last period. I dont want to take HRT either. if so thats a big hope for me . I feel like I'm on another planet , the skin zapping! My jaw is always tight, my neck hurts, my ears are ringing. You are going to laugh about the shoulder blade/throat and ear pain. Journal of Language and Social Psychology. If you look around at other posts, you will see that most women that post have had tons of medical management of symptoms done, lots of tests, blood work, treatments that have shown nothing because peri is so misunderstood. Its not easy, I hope you have support around you. I have horrible health Anxiety been to the emergency room three times the last two years a month ago which was just recently they didnt do a ton of test but they just said you have anxiety but I just dont think anxiety causes this much pain but maybe it does!!! When one person is communicating in a way that is non-confrontational and emotion-focused, the listeners are more likely to match their own responses to that of the speaker. I wish you well with everything and hope these symptoms will be a thing of the past for all of us. Thank you again for responding!. Our website is not intended to be a substitute for professional medical advice, diagnosis, or treatment. Menopause sucks. Thank you, {{form.email}}, for signing up. please ease my mind and tell me im not alone. All the above symptoms I can relate to. I have had every test you can think of as well and feel the same as you. This of course made me very cranky. I was so worried and Google is the worst! However, everybody can learn to use these and will benefit from non-accusatory communication. can be really tender when i breathe in deeply. I tried Cymbalta but again i googled as was terrified at some of the reviews. I have to force myself to move then I do feel better after awhile. also another symptom of perimenopause is obtrusive thoughts with no factual basis. Research suggests that I-messages can improve communication, which is why they are often used in couples counseling, family therapy, and other therapeutic interventions. For example, a person might say something like, "I feel like you don't care." While this statement starts with an expression of how the speaker feels, it concludes with an accusation. Just a suggestion. The Scoreganics label was founded in 2010 in collaboration with A&E Television Networks. I've had my blood, urine, fecal checked --- all have come out normal. My daughter was involved in a fatal car accident in January. Verywell Mind articles are reviewed by board-certified physicians and mental healthcare professionals. Couldn't figure out why as both days had started off normal. Omg. Everyone described me as "strong". "I feel" statements should state how the speaker is feeling, the cause of that feeling, and a potential solution. no e nergy and sickly feeling all over, i suffer with the panic attacks that wake me also. I had a biopsy and it wasnt bad at all. Its Feb 5 now and on April 15 it will be my one full year without a period. My gynecologist did it the same time as he did my pap. These feelings statements are a powerful communication tool. im tired of being sick im praying hard to have helthy day and restful night . Hang in there ladies. One reason "I feel" statements might help defuse conflict is a phenomenon known as the norm of reciprocity. I can hardly get through my day. It's consuming my life as it's all I think about. Hope to hear back from you to see if you ever dealt with the reflux and difficulty burping. But it's one of the perimenopause symptoms some of us experience as I speak to other women going thru perimenopause and some have talked about this kind of symptoms. I know what it's like when you are just wanting someone to talk to and seems like you are going through this alone. My worst symptom is health anxiety. My doctor thinks I am a hypochondriac (and lately I would have to agree). You know they are bad when you are asking for the alternating constipation/diarrhea to come back so you can be over the urinary symptoms! I know what you mean about chocolate I drank a choc shake the other day and I had horrible refux. i given up i dont think ever will get back to normal..its been 10 years for me! My kids are grown and gone as well..i do feel lonely and the few friends I have they don't have it as bad as us so they don't understand..like you im seating here constantly worrying. In April nothing, and from there the worst anxiety and panic attacks started, headaches. Nausea a constant now. How are you doing present day? I also noticed I cannot tolerate chocolate anymore. Every ache, pain I swear to God I am Googling convinces I have cancer or something and dying! I am post menopause. . I am so sorry I just seen this. Although there is some mention of the other persons behavior, the focus continues to be on the uncomfortable feeling experienced by the speaker. i have horrible muscle aches as well at times. Erin Johnston, LCSW is a therapist, counselor, coach, and mediator with a private practice in Chicago, Illinois. My Alp levels came back elevated for the first time ever at 128. the constant worry of something horrible is going to happen!!! Hot flashes were never too bad, but heart pounding loud and hard (and fast) right before I'd get one. It feels as im constantly running to the bathroom even at home and not much comes out. We sound like sisters from another mister (lol). I use calendula every morning. I read your post and I have the same EXACT symptoms.the nausea is awful. ScarlxrdPSYCHX 2022 Kordhell x ScarlxrdReleased on: 2022-10-28Producer: KordhellAuto. Yes id love to talk to anyone about this. While there is no guarantee that the other person will respond in a receptive way, using feeling statements can minimize the risk that the conversation will devolve into hostility and argumentativeness. Half of what i see is so inaccurate. 5 Signs of an Energy Vampire and How to Cope, Effects of Conflict and Stress on Relationships, Relationship Emotions: How to Express Feelings in a Relationship, How Nitpicking Can Damage Your Relationship, How to Improve Your Relationships With Effective Communication Skills, Newlywed Advice: Tips for New Married Couples, Daily Tips for a Healthy Mind to Your Inbox, I understand you feel that way, but I feel this way: the benefits of I-language and communicating perspective during conflict, What a difference a pronoun makes: i/we versus you/me and worried couples perceptions of their interaction quality, Journal of Language and Social Psychology. It felt strange when I breathe, like there's candyfloss in my lungs.. Lol.. Perhaps her ideas were sought as well as the other persons and together they made a plan. I started having stabbing (like almost electric shock pains) just above my pelvis bone. Doctors didnt have a clue so i googled and next thing i had all these weird, crazy diseases.. Ideally, this allows the other person to concentrate on helping to alleviate the discomfort, rather than defending themselves. i can totally picture myself doing this! God be with us all. I realize this was posted months ago but I'm hoping there are still others out there that can relate i feel as if this perimenooause is breaking me i literally feel as if I'm dying from nausea the moment i wake up to constant anxiety and panic attacks, jelly legs etc its horrible and so overwhelming I don't recognize myself I used to be such a practical thinking person. It can be helpful to look at how feeling statements might be utilized in communication. I've been to the ER due to this issue thinking I had bladder cancer, nope all tests come back normal. every 2 days. I was convinced that I had interstitial cystitis, I googled everything I could for my symptoms and finally resigned myself to continuing my oral and vaginal estrogen, having acupuncture and trying to just put one foot in front of the other to get through the really horrible days. And always scared of everything. I'm working with two therapists and a behavioral specialist to help me out of this. My doctors tell me everything is fine as i have had normal CT scans and normal gyn ultrasounds. I do have fibroids and IBS and am recovering from Covid too (mine was very gastric) so none of that helps me understand what's going on and why. Families are also prone to communication problems that can interfere with the family dynamic and lead to conflict within the family unit. i have not had a period in three months and since december ive had a feeling of inflamation and pain on my right flank. I have pain in my RIGHT shoulder blade that comes and goes. One way to accomplish this is through the use of "I feel" statements, also known as feeling statements, I-messages, or just I-statements. My shoulder blade and ear and throat pain have gotten better and I was feeling pretty good and now I'm having alot of acid relux and feeling like I need to burp and cant. Changing how people communicate can improve relationships and help individuals feel understood. I feel like under the possession of an evil force. It is so hard to get through both of these things at the same time. I dont have IC though, thank You, Jesus! Just want a sprinkle of myself back so I can enjoy life (which is hard to do with this COVID political mess) again ya know? I have also had the urinary issues, mine lasted for about 8 months and seem to have tapered off just as some of my other peri symptoms have acted up again. I have a rheumatologist appointment next Friday even though thankfully autoimmune disease has been ruled out. Verywell Mind uses only high-quality sources, including peer-reviewed studies, to support the facts within our articles. Im nauseous but hungry. they reassured me they are fine and this too shall pass. Did your nausea come in waves. I also just underwent several tests for digestive issues. Hi I know this post was some time ago. Don't google it will stress you more out, everything leads to cancer or that your dying, easier said than done. I am 62 and endocrinologist suggested I go down on my hormone and now in bed so ill. She practices in Washington state and im in Virginia so i have to watch her on YouTube. I don't have any other "bad" symptoms like bloating, bleeding, heart burn, weight gain just this pressure down. I wish you the best too, let me know if you need to talk. The use of I-messages is also more likely to evoke feelings of empathy, cooperation, and openness to negotiation in listeners. It can cause dryness, itching, burning, painful intercourse and can also cause unpleasant urinary symptoms. Patient aims to help the world proactively manage its healthcare, supplying evidence-based information on a wide range of medical and health topics to patients and health professionals. You really will be ok. I just went to my gyno yesterday and she wanted be to take anxiety medicine for at least one month to see if it works, instead of putting me of HRT. It's hard to think positive, I mean really hard, and we end up wallowing in self pity and just feeling sorry for ourselves. it was prescribed me for palpitations but i felt even sicker taking it . Have you ever gotten this? do you feel good after taking only Oregano oil ? growing physically and menatlly very tired. So it must be this menopause making some of us lose control on ourselves. I don't have headaches, a little congested but I don't think it's allergies. Should not be any higher than 30. I was just about ready to start to take medication then I got my period and that was the end of it. This was my first perimenopause symptom. I have prostate problemslol! Um, i dont think so. On bad days, my whole body hurts. I certainly don't feel that now. In the beginning, palpitation episodes, unwellness, digestive issues were frequent. It happened twice. Take Care. Pray for our country, pray for piece and pray for each other. I also have low back pain but I have 3 facet joints in my lower back that are shot so the back pain (I think) is explained. Lately most days are spent thinking I'm dying from dome form of cancer. The ultrasound nurse was horrible and wouldn't tell me what it means! How are you doing darlin. Now nausea! One common pitfall when using "I feel' statements is to use them as a way to express a judgment or assign blame to the other person. We want the forums to be a useful resource for our users but it is important to remember that the forums are usually i am a really positive person but lately it is hard to be positive. Doesn't really make me feel better as it's easy to think something was growing and wasn't yet visible to themthe mind gamesmy only ray of hope is that it has been less noticeable sometimes so i figure that wouldn't happen if it was a progressive disease. They put it down to diverticulitis, which of course can cause digestive issues too. hope we all do . When you say you know the feeling, do you feel really rotten too? Blood tests ok too. I've been to the doctors office twice regarding this. I am always telling my husband i don't want to be alone. But i was wondering what happened about your alp being elevated.Ive just had liver function tests and they are all normal except alp , which is raised 128. Are you having any other symptom besides the pressure in bladder? Synonyms for I Feel (other words and phrases for I Feel). I have that same weird head pressure. I have been hit hard!! I feel nauseous rather flu-like, have the anxiety especially health anxiety, muscular aches and pains, digestive issues, and the weirdest bladder symptoms ever. The best news us it came back benign. I've lost almost all interest in guys. Hi Jamie, I get weird head pressure too. For example i google "urination problems in your fifties" or something like that and guess popped up? When people talk about feelings, they often have a tendency to assign blame first while downplaying the feeling. It was horrible but it has gotten alot better. Im now seeing a traditional Gastro Dr who takes my insurance i was praying not to repeat tests with her which she didnt . Hoping it ends soon..sending you lots of hugs xx. Use of the forums is subject to our Terms of Use I have had it for YEARS (and I mean YEARS) so if THAT was anything, I would be dead by now! Steven Gans, MD is board-certified in psychiatry and is an active supervisor, teacher, and mentor at Massachusetts General Hospital. One thing i notice, is that dehydration can cause me to feel rather unwell. Then it will go away and come back. stay safe xoxoxo. drinking ensure and weight gain powder blended mixes. I am the caretaker in my house. It started a month ago. Also forcing beverages down to keep from getting dehydrated. I wouldn't say I'm 100% cured because I still have some issues now and again but I am so much better. I cant winlol! Hopefully in a few years we will feel back to a new normal. God bless . I have always had them but with menopause and everything drying out, they are more common! Insomnia. I am supposed to see a rheumatologist on Feb 14. was wondering if you found out what it was and how long you had it and did it ever go away. I then drove back home and quietly went to bed. praying for us all, Hi there! Back in July my period had stopped for 7 months and i thought, great im almost done then in January I got it again and every month since then and all the symptoms came back 10 times worst!! Praying like you that this is just another "symptom" and not cancer. Upgrade to Patient Pro Medical Professional? I've had it all my life, but it's really flared up now with the perimenopause. Just had mild hot flashes, periods all over the place and that was about it. Ill use Gynetrof moisturizer the otger nights that im not using Premarin. Hugs. Hot flashes come and go. Im 56 and post menopause.My doctor is going to retest in 3 months but ive been googling and now Im worried out of my mind! I am also going a lot it seems. Then COVID. We will get through this together/apart and I can't tell you (to the moderators) how much I personally appreciate this forum.It has some nights made the difference of me going to sleep with peace of mind I am not alone! I've had this for the last 3 months. Is it possible to feel like crap 80% of the month? kadija. Before you go through menopause you just expect to have hot flashes and the other standard side effects. I'm always making a drs appointment about something! Several other times no hospitilization very nauseous with dry heaves. You could not have said it better. Last night I had a few panic attacks and my chest felt like I'm wheezing, my jaw and neck felt painful. The technical storage or access is required to create user profiles to send advertising, or to track the user on a website or across several websites for similar marketing purposes. All of a sudden I had almost every one of the perimenapause symptoms. Started with of course the hot flashes. but i have had every fear under the sun. So weak nausea and feel like dying. it started jan 2016 but past 3 months have beem horrible. i am at the end of my rope. just awaiting on results from a biopsys that was took from left breast yesterday , get results next tuesday , but praying and asking God for good result , thanx for reply , nobody quite understands as the out of things that can come from menapause. Together they focus on the present activity and their feelings instead of blaming one another. What next! im desperately searching for a good dr that specializes in perimenopause - menopause. All my children have grown up and move away. i feel alive scoreganics | 50827. post-template-default,single,single-post,postid-50827,single-format-standard,theme-capri,qode-core-2.1.1,select-core-2.1.1,woocommerce-no-js,ajax_fade,page_not_loaded,,capri-ver-3.3, vertical_menu_with_scroll,smooth_scroll,fade_push_text_top,paspartu_enabled,woocommerce_installed,blog_installed,wpb-js-composer . You definitely are not alone. I saw the most horrific things. But i hesitate to take the antibiotic but my pain isnt getting better i suffered almost 3 yrs wake up with bitter taste and many tummy discomforts , i start intermittent fasting eating just lunch and light food for dinner . I had this done back in November. By clicking Accept All Cookies, you agree to the storing of cookies on your device to enhance site navigation, analyze site usage, and assist in our marketing efforts. Not quite dizziness, more like I'm on a boat. 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